{"id":815,"date":"2021-08-04T17:38:36","date_gmt":"2021-08-04T17:38:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gritology.com\/blog\/?p=815"},"modified":"2022-04-21T23:58:43","modified_gmt":"2022-04-21T23:58:43","slug":"how-perspective-changed-my-life-and-can-change-yours-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gritology.com\/blog\/blog\/how-perspective-changed-my-life-and-can-change-yours-too\/","title":{"rendered":"My Explant Journey (Part 2) \u2014 How Perspective Can Change Your Life"},"content":{"rendered":"

PERSPECTIVE<\/p>\n

Perspective typically comes into play when we\u2019re facing a health issue.<\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s perspective on our life if, God forbid, we don\u2019t wake up from surgery (or am I the only one who spazzes about going under anesthesia?)<\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s perspective on a lifestyle that led us to dealing with a health issue in the first place.<\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s perspective on our current priorities.<\/p>\n

Perspective can hurt us, or perspective can heal us.<\/p>\n

All of this perspectiveness <\/em>came to light prior to my surgery to remove my breast implants. Being told I would be left with, as my doctor explained, \u201cZero breast tissue\u201d \u2014<\/em>basically just saggy nips! (Sorry if that\u2019s TMI, ha) But I realized I had a choice on how I could handle the news \u2014 and the impending body change.<\/p>\n

I could be super upset about \u2018losing\u2019 my boobs, or celebrate my time with them, throw a Bye- Bye-Booby Party and on the way to the hospital crank up a feel-good song and flash a truck driver, appreciating the fact I had a \u2018good run.\u2019 \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

I could blame society for \u2018pressuring\u2019 me into the breast implants, or recognize it was me who allowed<\/em> others to influence me \u2014 and then figure out why<\/em> I allowed it.<\/p>\n

I could head into the surgery scared and worried, or pray, and know that God will be near and get me through.<\/p>\n

I could focus on my scarred, ugly boobs or, be thankful I\u2019m finally free from the foreign objects my body had been fighting for so long!<\/p>\n

And I could feel unsexy and \u2018less\u2019 of a woman, or realize I am not my boobs<\/em>. Sexiness is born of attitude! What people will see<\/u> is not my boobs but my attitude.<\/p>\n

The challenge here is that I grew up craving empathy, even felt an odd satisfaction when anyone took pity on me. Our behaviors are based on patterns developed in childhood, and my entire life I\u2019ve craved attention \u2014 in any way I could get it \u2014 even if it was pity! But with my transformation these past few years, I\u2019ve come to realize I feel a much better \u2018satisfaction\u2019 when I handle challenges with positivity and gratitude. It takes effort for sure, especially breaking those old patterns, but now I\u2019ve come to crave the feeling of peace and satisfaction that comes with redirecting my thinking when faced with making choices*.<\/p>\n

My kids have been a huge inspiration, too. Sadly, they grew up mostly with the \u2018former choice’ mom. I want them to see change IS possible in people. And knowing my kids are watching, I know which mom I want them to see.<\/p>\n

*There\u2019s a great book that helps redirect our thinking by Jennie Allen, Get Out of Your Head: Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts.<\/em><\/p>\n

An example that may help get you thinking:<\/p>\n

You\u2019re at the airport, your flight gets canceled and you have to wait four hours for the next flight. You have two choices. You can get angry and yell at the gate agent and demand to get on an earlier flight, causing a scene, or you can accept it\u2019s out of your control, head to the bookstore, and find a good book that you might not have otherwise had the chance to read.<\/em><\/p>\n

Which person do you want the world (and your kids) to see?<\/p>\n

Which choice will ultimately make you feel better inside?<\/p>\n

(Full disclosure, I was totally<\/em> the angry person in the past. And while it felt good initially to get my anger out, it felt like sh*t later!)<\/p>\n

It\u2019s been such a process and I am by no means<\/em> perfect with my choices \ud83d\ude09 but I hope by sharing my experience, it may help you see how powerful perspective can be. xo<\/p>\n

Notice the smile with a hot celebrity …….. and notice the smile post-explant.\u00a0 Which one do I look happier?\u00a0 \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

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